Safehaven Women is a weekly meet-up that takes place at St Peter’s church in the centre of Brighton every Thursday.
Women come together in a safe environment to share their stories and often to seek help. The women are welcomed into a lovely ‘home’ environment and offered a hot meal, tea & cake, pampering activities, the craft table, creative writing, a choir, music, advice on addiction & recovery, practical tips on budgeting etc and a beautiful spiritual reflection time.
The women can be homeless, vulnerably housed, lonely, bereaved, experiencing mental or physical illness or needing help with addiction or family issues.
The craft table offers the women an opportunity to explore creativity through making; experimenting with materials, colour, texture and mastering many new skills through a wide range of textile and art based activities. The table offers a beautifully encouraging environment in which the women can challenge themselves to try new things each week and develop patience & resilience through making mistakes and trying again. The table can be full of chatter or quietly focused and reflective but the overall feeling is one of togetherness and interest in each other’s work and moments of joy – every woman has their own individual approach which is nurtured, encouraged and celebrated.
Quotes gathered from the table:
‘I really enjoy the art table. I’m not confident about doing art, yet I always find a new thing I can do with the help at the table. I end up feeling really satisfied and proud of what I’ve done.’
‘I find the art table therapeutic and inspiring, it offers new possibilities. My concentration has improved since coming to the table.’
‘Being part of the craft table has really lifted my spirits and enriched my life.’
‘I love the craft table, it’s such an oasis of calm with such innovative ideas that distract me from negative thoughts. It inspires me to do my own craft at home and make gifts for other people. I’m really proud to show people what I have made.’
‘It is a lovely place to socialise and to learn new and different crafts. I pass on the ideas I learn to other people too.’
‘I like the craft table for the company and it’s nice to learn new things that I’ve never done before. I find that lots of the women help each other which I really like, a real sense of community.’
‘I didn't used to feel worthy enough to make nice things for myself but through the encouragement I receive I am now allowing myself to have a go. I have learnt that making mistakes when you’re making things isn’t about being rubbish, it is part of the process of being creative which I didn't understand before. The craft table allows me to challenge previous beliefs I had about myself and be free to enjoy new experiences.’
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We see the craft table very much as a catalytic space, a space where things unfold, where ideas spark and develop. The vision for the table can change each week, it evolves as a result of the community that gathers around it, the conversations, the ideas that often come from the women themselves and what might be happening in our lives. The activities are loosely planned but we are often guided in a more intuitive way; we might be inspired by materials that come available to us, items that are needed, ideas that have come out of a social exchange or have spoken to us spiritually. Many activities involve generous acts of giving and receiving which is significant in so many ways.
The Craft team’s role is to try our best to facilitate creativity around the table. We might start by bringing an idea to the table that we feel excited about making together, along with the relevant tools and a selection of beautiful materials for the guests to play with. Our hope each week is to spark participation and joy in making. We usually experiment ourselves a little with the idea before bringing it to the table, we might prep materials and potentially anticipate some of the stumbling blocks the women might encounter with the activity, which we might explain as being all part of the creative process.
The women are invited each week to choose their own colours, patterns, textures. We always offer choice and scope to be individual, so no finished piece ever looks the same, which we feel is essential to creativity.
The positive outcomes from participating in making can be far reaching; making involves slowing down, using our hands and senses, it can offer a distraction from problems and concerns but can also focus the mind calmly to reflect. It provides the opportunity to connect and disconnect by choice – disconnect through individually focused concentration and absorption or connect through collective making with a shared purpose.
The effort it takes to master a new skill in making is significant, the creative process is made up of successes and failures which undoubtedly builds resilience. The sense of achievement and confidence gained from creating something unique with your hands offers opportunities to build new narratives. Making often involves interaction with others around the table; the sharing of ideas and materials and the encouragement we give and receive from each other builds a caring community and fills us with love for one another.
We might describe the golden thread woven into the giving and receiving we experience through craft as ‘compassion and hope in the making’. A selection of our projects follow...